Heavy Is Your Baggage?
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positive mental attitude will create more miracles than
any wonder drug.”
An e-mail newsletter designed to transform the
way you think about your career… and to help you face Mondays with
by Dale Kurow, M.S., Career & Executive Coach
Spring has almost sprung! I feel like dancing.
We are spending lots of time in Central Park watching
nature work its magic. After an interminable winter, it’s wonderful
to see daffodils, irises, crocuses and the first flowers of spring poke
their cute little heads up from the soil.
In keeping with Spring, now is the time to lighten whatever
burdens you are needlessly carrying around. And that’s the topic
of this month’s issue: How Heavy is Your Baggage? Hope you find
Wishing you sunshine and gentle breezes!
To Your Success,
Are you harboring bitterness
or anger towards your current or past employer?
Do you find it difficult to be upbeat when interviewing
or networking because of past job experiences?
Have you spent sleepless nights worrying about how to
explain your choppy resume?
need to dump this baggage fast!
a reality check to lighten your load:
Your employer is not investing hours in a personal vendetta against
Employers know that the demise of dot.com companies and the economic
downturn of the last 4 years have resulted in choppier resumes.
People you network with don’t want to hear about your past woes.
They want to know what you’re doing to move ahead!
Your face and presentation will mirror the internal dialogue you are
having with yourself.
The employer or net-worker you seek to impress is not
interested in lengthy explanations about your employment history. S/he
is self-involved like the rest of the world. This works in your favor.
Here’s why. Most people will not ask for details beyond a logically
delivered account of your employment status. They will accept what you
say at face value. The employer (or net-worker) will ask questions if
s/he wants more information.
So a two or three sentence clarification of your employment
status will suffice. For example, “My
company reorganized and I was among a number of people that were downsized.
I am now seeking to transfer my considerable experience into —fill
in the blank.” This is an effective explanation
that focuses the listener on the present and future, not the past.
Speaking of the past, if you are carrying around years
of hurt or slights by the boss who mistreated you, let go of this immediately.
These memories can be painful and hard to forget. But
they keep you stuck in the past. Not the place you need to be to get a
To get help leaving this baggage
behind and to shift your approach, consider working with a coach or counselor.
Once you’ve shined a light on what
you’re so angry or hurt about, the anger often dissipates.
Remember, the single most important marketing tool you
possess is your attitude. Everything will flow, positive or negative,
from your outlook. Your attitude begins
with what you are telling yourself. Start crafting an
internal dialogue that will portray you as resourceful, determined and
Finally, the most successful people I know have not had
everything fall into their lap. They’ve experienced amazing hardships.
But they don’t spend time talking about their failures or who done
them wrong. Their eyes are on the road ahead. Further, they focus on the
next good thing that they want to create for themselves.
What’s the next good
thing you want to create?
to network successfully every time? Be prepared for every stage of the networking
process: learn what to do before, during and after you go. Surefire Networking
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|I also offer an exploratory
half-hour of coaching with no obligation. I can be reached at 212/787-6097
currently offering one-on-one coaching to:
- Create a game
plan for changing careers
- Select the best
career options to pursue
- Develop the
skills to deal with a difficult boss
- Deal with office
- Build your personal
foundation and get the support you need to make changes
- Help you move
forward after being laid off
Author: Dale R.
Dale Kurow is a career and
executive coach who helps individuals find success and personal enrichment
at their vocations and who works with corporations to maximize the potential
of valuable employees.
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